If you're looking for something to give your sex life that extra kick - then toys are the things that can do it.

I always thought about playing with toys, but never went out and got any - until a friend of mine on the east coast helped out and I now have a couple in my possession.

One of the most common toys is the dildo. These are fun to use. They usually come in a larger than life size, and can present a fun challenge to a bottom. They can also be used as a substitute, when a man isn't available. Someone once said to me, "I would never stick anything artificial up my ass for the sake of pleasure." I pity him - when I got "test drive" my dildo I was in 7th heaven.

Dildos are often seen as "man substitutes". This isn't really accurate because the difference in sensation between having a dildo or a cock up your ass, is like the difference between night and day. There is a level of intensity you can achieve by being screwed with a dildo that is near impossible to have with a man. This is one of the reasons why it's a great deal of fun to have your partner fuck you not only with his cock, but also with a dildo. Mind you I'm not saying that one experience is better than the other. What I am saying is that they are very different and they complement one another.

When buying a dildo, I wouldn't waste money buying vibrators, they break down, are a pain to use, and frankly don't do that much for a man. If you are going to pick one up, I recommend getting one that's nicely textured (lots of veins) and is of a good size that you can handle.

I had the occasion to use a double headed dildo with someone in the past and that was a lot of fun!

For those of you not familiar with them - what you see wrapped around the dildo is a cock ring. The way a cock ring works is that it constricts blood flow out of a penis, but not into it. So more blood is flowing into your cock and less out. I should note that you put it on around your shaft and your balls, not just the shaft. This has the effect of making your cock even harder than normal. A lot of men who have problems maintaining a hard-on for extended periods of time, are rather fond of them. A cock ring works for almost anyone, and is certainly a lot of fun for your partner because your cock gets a lot more texture to it.

Unless you know exactly the size that you need for your cock, I would recommend staying away from the metal ones. They can be very difficult to put on, and even more difficult to take off if you start feeling discomfort. The rubber ring cock rings are pretty much a waste of money. They tend to be a pain because they often pull on the hairs on your crotch. So for those starting out, I would recommend one that is made out of leather and has metal snaps on it so that you can adjust it to for different sizes and levels of tightness.

Now a lot of things can be a toy. There a lot of things I've fantasized about that I look forward to trying one of these days. Some of the things that were suggested to me - whipped cream placed on strategic parts of the body. For added taste you could add strawberries.

Try putting an ice cube in your mouth while like licking various parts of your partner's body, or even while giving him a Blow job For those of you that are beer drinkers (I have done this one) - try taking a mouthful of beer and sucking your partner's cock with the beer in your mouth. He's bound to give you a reaction of one sort or another.

When flight attendants work on a flight, we sometimes rinsed our hands with champagne, and it felt wonderful! Have you thought of trying to pour champagne over parts of your partner's body?

Various articles of clothing can also constitute toys. Jockstraps for example - ever try fucking some one with a jockstrap on? Snapping the straps of his jock against his ass while you fuck him. It would certainly be an interesting visual. Speedos, lycra, spandex, silk, and other such things have always turned me on tremendously. I love a guy in a speedo, or silk briefs. It's fun to tease him by fondling his cock, licking it, even trying to suck him through that soft smooth material.

I look forward to trying more and more toys in the future, and I hope you do as well after reading this.